Divorce myths
It is weird and wrong but the divorce becomes a common result of a marriage today. People couple their lives and hearts and seem to love each other though soon they get divorced. Today divorce is not considered as a drama but as a normal way to deal with some problem. It is easier for people to say "good buy" to each other than to waist their time for settling conflicts. People are to lazy today and so they easily lost their families and people they were in love with. Though, it is wrong. A family is worth to fight for and to do once best in order to save it.
The de facto marriage is considered to be a guaranty against divorce. Most people believe that it gives an opportunity to find out all merits and shortcomings of the one they are going to get married. Though, it is wrong. According to statistic the de facto marriage gives no guaranty that everything is gonna be all right. People ignore the shortcomings they notice and get married and than the tiredness of these shortcomings and unwillingness to dispose those result in divorce. The de facto marriage is the same marriage with the easier form of divorce.
The greatest harm the divorce causes is the harm it causes for a child's psychic. Most people believe that a child is able to forget about the events of divorce and be just the same they he or she was. But, it is just another myth. Remember, that you get divorced with someone you used to love but with that divorce you deprive your child of the family. Things will never be the same for your child and he or she will always know it and feel the lack of love. You are able to do nothing in order to make your child feel better about the divorce. The trauma you cause for your baby with divorce will never be healed no matter what you do.
In order to cheer themselves up people created a myth according to which a divorce is not the end but the beginning of the new life. Tough, it is only a myth and there is no new beautiful life. According to statistic the living level of people who got divorced gets lower. But it is not the living level people have to worry about but their future. People say that a second marriage is a successful marriage as people consider mistakes they made and act more carefully, but, according to statistic second and third marriages often end with a divorce. The divorce of second marriage is more common phenomena than the divorce of the first marriage.
One more myth deal with the length of the marriage, psychologists say that people are wrong if they think that first three years are the most dangerous years for marriage. According to their researches it is only 18 per cents of marriage that fade away after three years. In most cases people get divorced after they were together for nine and even seventeen years. The psychologists say that it is a result of midlife crisis of a man. They feel that they are getting older and try to do something, anything that would save them from the anility. As a rule there is no better decision they are able to find than leave their family and find a new love.